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San Diego is the best city for real gay chat

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Sunny San Diego welcomes you! You’ve got beaches, you’ve got gay bars and you’ve got 300 days of sunshine – it’s gay paradise! There’s so much to do in San Diego you’ll be getting your gay on every night! But let’s be honest, dating is hard. We all know it can be awkward and uncomfortable, and those blind dates with the guy who doesn’t know when to stop with the cologne are old news. But you’ve done the lonely nights and the month-long dry spells so it’s time to get out there again. This is it. You’ve signed up for a dating service and they’ve come through with a match made in internet heaven! Now come the butterflies and worrying about planning a truly awesome date. Check out our San Diego hit list and you’ll be sticking it to ALL the men in no time.

Beach, Please!

As beaches go, San Diego has ‘em all! And we mean alllllllll. Black’s Beach at Torrey Pines Gilder Port is THE most famous nude beach in America. Yep, you heard us right, NUDE! The path down isn’t a walk in the park so wear good shoes, but the payoff is definitely worth it. Head north and you’ll find yourself in gay nudist heaven. Wear your speedo or bare it all and enjoy cruising the hotties around you.

Bubbles and Butts!

Who doesn’t love a bathhouse? San Diego’s only gay bathhouse is Club San Diego at 3955 Fourth Avenue and boy, will you have a good time! When you arrive, grab the free condoms on offer and get ready to get some. Strip off in the Jacuzzi for some hot and heavy fun, steam it out in the sauna and get lustful in the video lounge. Finish off in one of their VIP rooms for a climax you won’t forget!

Sugar and Spice!

If you want somewhere that’s worth every single calorie then Babycakes at 3766 5th Avenue is the place! Make that boy’s mouth water with their seriously naughty cupcakes — they won’t be the only thing cream filled! Order a takeout selection and head on home; we’re sure you can find creative things to do with that frosting. For a gayborhood fave with real Mexican flavor head over to Baja Betty’s at 1421 University Avenue. A hit with Los Gays, you won’t be short of eye candy to satisfy your appetite. With bottomless mimosas everyday – yep, EVERYDAY – hot hook-ups are a sure thing! Head back on Sunday to soak up as much of their Bottomless Brunch as you can, and then do it all over again!

Flick it Good!

Rainbow-colored drinks are waiting for you at Flicks on 1017 University Avenue. Gaze at the gays on their outdoor patio before checking out their Thursday nights, complete with Go-Go dancers to ogle on the bar. With an all-night Happy Hour, underwear parties and drink specials, even if your date is a bust, go to Flicks and you won’t go home alone!
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